Questions are the forms that drive the conversation. Asking the right question and asking the question correctly can be important. Although the sentences we quickly formulate in our daily lives do not always allow for this, when we have a complex, new, detailed or important issue to think about, paying attention to it will both get the other person’s attention and increase our self-awareness.
I think that the ability to diversify our questions can trigger different perspectives in ourselves and in others. If we ask a simple and everyday question, the answer will be similar — unless it is detailed. However, some questions that are unexpected, designed to stimulate the mind, and that we think are different from the other person’s way of thinking, will make them think about the question. Making and listening to the kind of conversations that can shed light on the quality and development of topics for discussion can add a fresh touch to our lives.
I think the way to do this is to adopt the most favourable state that we can add to our personal thoughts. After all, as individuals we can only think in one direction. It is true that we can improve ourselves and broaden our vision, but it is unlikely that we will be able to see things from all sides at the same time. We depend on the comments and questions of others to achieve such improvements.
The contribution of written media and social interactions is undeniable. For example, I carefully read articles of different genres, lengths and subjects in this medium, because if I always read in the subjects I am interested in or like, sooner or later the development of my opinion will be limited. So I read with the understanding that I owe it to myself and to the people I read to think about what is said in each genre.
Put simply, meeting our friends also provides this. In the academic world, because questioning is part of the scientific process, debate is a natural part of it. As human beings, our opposing ideas should clash so that we can see where we are wrong and learn to improve; socially, in science and society, and individually, in ourselves and our creations, so that we can see what kind of intellectual investment we can make.
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We have explained and understood that a change in the way we ask questions will add awareness and diversity to our own point of view and allow the other person to engage and connect more genuinely with the issue. Now let’s ask the question: is this a behaviour that everyone can adopt? Let’s think about it.
To do this, we have indicated that we need to contribute ourselves, and we have discussed the factors that we will use to add to our personal reflection. You may still not have fully succeeded, so what then? To be honest, when I thought about the question, I realised that there were points where I did not succeed.
In terms of character, I am a person who clings to the person and process I trust as if I have sworn allegiance. If there is a place I visit regularly, my priority is always the same place. My tendency to change the route to that place is almost non-existent. In other words, trying different styles or differentiating the style I already have is not one of my priorities. From a social point of view, for the same reason I don’t have many friends, I prefer to strengthen my relationships with the ones I have. In fact, it seems that I have a structure that contradicts what I have said, doesn’t it?
Then let us conclude by saying this. Diversifying our questions or options does not have to work for everyone or for every issue. Sometimes, no matter what kind of question we ask, we may not find a way out. We should remember that this is very human and natural. On the other hand, we should also assume that not everyone can use these methods in a valid way. Sometimes we don’t see what the healthy approach is in the moment. Trying to force ourselves through life’s exhausting options can close the door rather than open a way out. In such moments, let time take its course and do not choose the wrong phrases before asking the right questions.
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